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Post by
MyTie
That would make her hate you.
I reject the idea that not letting kids have what they want, or do what they want, fosters hate. If I have a good reason NOT to allow the relationship, I won't allow it. I DO NOT CARE if that causes my daughter to be mad at me. In the end, if I had good reason to end the relationship, and I don't it cause her to realize that I didn't care enough to make the hard choices, to be a dad, instead of a friend. I'm not there to get along with her, I'm there to teach her what is necessary for a healthy life, and allowing a relationship with my 13 year old daughter that isn't healthy, is NOT conducive to raising a healthy woman.
Now, currently, I have no reason to disallow the relationship. I'm just saying that it is in my power, and if need be, it is my responsibility to end it. I refuse to bow to the pressure of a teenager.
Come on man. It's like you've never read anything I've posted here.And somewhat giving a vibe of her not being her own person. :/She is her own person, but she is also my daughter. Just because she is her own person, doesn't mean she has the skills to enter a romantic relationship successfully, which can be very damaging if done incorrectly. I wouldn't toss her the keys to my car, just because "she is her own person".
I think he could've gotten to know you before dating her though.
Yeah. It would have been nice. But, it isn't a requirement. From what I can tell, though, he is a fine boy.
Post by
Jubilee
Raising girls is all about how you spin things. I'm not going to tell you it's wrong to put up restrictions, but I will tell you that they're generally less than effective. Rather than harping on the fact that the boy never came to you (what 14-15 year old boy would?), invite your daughter and him to a baseball game or to go bowling. Do it happily and with no apparent ulterior motive, and you'll get to meet the boy on good terms, leave a good impression on him, and not push your daughter towards any rebellion. You could of course, demand to meet him and reprimand him within earshot of your daughter when you do. You'll have met the boy like you want, but you'll be playing a completely different game at that point, and let me tell you a secret: teenage girls are great at that game.
Post by
Haxzor
I say invite him round and beat him at video games. Show him who's boss.
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240140
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Post by
MyTie
Raising girls is all about how you spin things. I'm not going to tell you it's wrong to put up restrictions, but I will tell you that they're generally less than effective. Rather than harping on the fact that the boy never came to you (what 14-15 year old boy would?), invite your daughter and him to a baseball game or to go bowling. Do it happily and with no apparent ulterior motive, and you'll get to meet the boy on good terms, leave a good impression on him, and not push your daughter towards any rebellion. You could of course, demand to meet him and reprimand him within earshot of your daughter when you do. You'll have met the boy like you want, but you'll be playing a completely different game at that point, and let me tell you a secret: teenage girls are great at that game.
All good advice. I love the fact that my daughter entered this relationship, and I think it is a great chance to teach her about relationships. This isn't about teaching the boy something, it's about teaching her. I'm definitely very good at teaching. And, my daughter is a good girl. She understands that I have a reason for doing what I do. She also knows that testing my limits has real consequences. She has learned that first hand. I highly doubt she is going to question me on this.
I also have a penis, and I was 13/14 at one point. I know exactly what the boy is thinking about. I do. I really do. I know what he is going to be thinking about for the next couple of decades. While natural, my daughter needs to be aware of these, and know how to make limits and rules.
So, while teenage girls may be great at playing this game, there is nothing new under the sun, so to speak. I'm pretty familiar with the rules myself, and being a young dad, it hasn't been that long since my last "game".
Post by
Jubilee
I hope so. For her sake.
Hey Hax, I was thinking back to being a little teen girl and I remember 15 year old me having the biggest crush ever on you. I'm almost 20 now and here we still are. How funny life is.
Dat's so cute.
I wish I had crushes as a young teen. It would have made those crazy confusing years that much more of an adventure.
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240140
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Post by
Nathanyal
I may be a sore loser sometimes, but at least I haven't done
this
(yet).
Post by
Haxzor
Hey Hax, I was thinking back to being a little teen girl and I remember 15 year old me having the biggest crush ever on you. I'm almost 20 now and here we still are. How funny life is.
I remember you and vikey getting mad at me because of some thread about animals having sentience.
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240140
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Jubilee
Hey Hax, I was thinking back to being a little teen girl and I remember 15 year old me having the biggest crush ever on you. I'm almost 20 now and here we still are. How funny life is.
Dat's so cute.
I wish I had crushes as a young teen. It would have made those crazy confusing years that much more of an adventure.
He's australian, what was I supposed to do!
I don't have crushes anymore, I just want to have sex with everyone.
Speaking of which.. Hi Jubi ;););););;););););)
Oh I see how it is. You just want me for my body.
It's a deal ;)
Post by
Haxzor
His point was terrible
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240140
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Post by
Haxzor
That is a terrible sentence.
Post by
Magician22773
I also have a penis, and I was 13/14 at one point. I know exactly what the boy is thinking about. I do. I really do. I know what he is going to be thinking about for the next couple of decades. While natural, my daughter needs to be aware of these, and know how to make limits and rules.
I am soooo glad I have 2 sons. I honestly do not think I could parent a daughter.
My best friend has 4 children, and his youngest is his daughter. She is, in every way, a "Daddy's Girl". The sun rises and sets at the feet of this young lady, as far as my friend is concerned.
I still remember her first "real" date. (Actually leaving the house, in a vehicle, with a boyfriend)
We have a very small, "rural" style meat processing shop here in town. Ben (my friend) went to the shop, and got a very fresh, and very bloody pair of bull testicles. When the young man came in, and was introduced to Ben, he looked him dead in the eye, and handed him the testicles. And with a stone straight face, said "These are from her last boyfriend. He didn't respect my little girl. You
are
going to respect my little girl, right?"
The look on that kids face was priceless.
Post by
Jubilee
I need to fix this insomnia thing. This can't be healthy.
Post by
MyTie
I also have a penis, and I was 13/14 at one point. I know exactly what the boy is thinking about. I do. I really do. I know what he is going to be thinking about for the next couple of decades. While natural, my daughter needs to be aware of these, and know how to make limits and rules.
I am soooo glad I have 2 sons. I honestly do not think I could parent a daughter.
My best friend has 4 children, and his youngest is his daughter. She is, in every way, a "Daddy's Girl". The sun rises and sets at the feet of this young lady, as far as my friend is concerned.
I still remember her first "real" date. (Actually leaving the house, in a vehicle, with a boyfriend)
We have a very small, "rural" style meat processing shop here in town. Ben (my friend) went to the shop, and got a very fresh, and very bloody pair of bull testicles. When the young man came in, and was introduced to Ben, he looked him dead in the eye, and handed him the testicles. And with a stone straight face, said "These are from her last boyfriend. He didn't respect my little girl. You
are
going to respect my little girl, right?"
The look on that kids face was priceless.
I think the best form of "intimidation" is positive, and psychological. He just needs to understand that I pay attention to my daughter, and I care about the decisions she makes.
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240140
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Post by
MyTie
Besides if she fails me cause of bad swedish then she's racist.
How so?
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