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I like a girl...but......(Warning: Long Read)
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Gone
I would give it a day or so before you message her, don't wanna seem too eager.
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Gone
Keep it cool and stay casual. Good luck dude, I really hope everything works out for you.
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Gone
Alright, I'm not the bragging type so that won't be an issue.
Well make sure and show some confidence too, girls like that.
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Gone
Hahaha Im glad for you dude! You're not out of the woods yet though, so don't get too excited just yet. Just be cool, be confident, and take things slow, just start out by asking how shes doing and such, play it cool.
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Rankkor
Alright, I'm not the bragging type so that won't be an issue.
Well make sure and show some confidence too, girls like that.
If it's not too difficult. But now I'm gonna see what this (1) icon on my facebook tab is from, then tell you guys what it says.
edit: I can now confirm that she has accepted my friend request, my god,
it put such a big stupid smile on my face :D. I uh...my god, I can't get rid of this smile....I......my god, this is great! I don't think I've smiled this long before without forcing myself to.
Ok so, I won't message her till tomorrow, like you guys said, so as not to seem too eager. Thanks for giving me the courage to make it this far guys :)
awwwww =D
ahhh d'amour, aint it wonderful?
I truly wish you all the best on it bro'
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BlackMonarch
It sounds to me like you need to
grow a pair
drink 100 CCs of Stolichnaya liquid courage. It would help if you explained a little bit about yourself and your situation before asking her out: "I had a crush on you for the longest time, I never had the courage to ask you out because I was insecure about my appearance, and I sorely regret not dancing with you in 8th grade. Today, I'm rectifying that mistake."
Working out and dropping some excess ballast might also help your chances.
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Gone
It would help if you explained a little bit about yourself and your situation before asking her out: "I had a crush on you for the longest time, I never had the courage to ask you out because I was insecure about my appearance, and I sorely regret not dancing with you in 8th grade. Today, I'm rectifying that mistake."
^ I cannot express enough how much you should
NOT
do that. After you guys are a bit more comfortable with each other, then yea tell her how you feel. But for now just try and keep it casual, ask her for coffee or something, and then after you guys are at least headed in the direction of dating, then tell her some of the stuff you told us, maybe even not till after you guys are dating.
For now just work on getting to know her again, and introducing her to yourself. Its been a long time since you guys have been friends, you should catch up first.
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Magician22773
It would help if you explained a little bit about yourself and your situation before asking her out: "I had a crush on you for the longest time, I never had the courage to ask you out because I was insecure about my appearance, and I sorely regret not dancing with you in 8th grade. Today, I'm rectifying that mistake."
^ I cannot express enough how much you should
NOT
do that. After you guys are a bit more comfortable with each other, then yea tell her how you feel. But for now just try and keep it casual, ask her for coffee or something, and then after you guys are at least headed in the direction of dating, then tell her some of the stuff you told us, maybe even not till after you guys are dating.
For now just work on getting to know her again, and introducing her to yourself. Its been a long time since you guys have been friends, you should catch up first.
Yeah, I second that motion.
You need to take this cool, calm, and collected......and SLOW.
As mentioned, as her if she would like to grab a coffee sometime. Simple, friendly chat is the key here.
At some point, if things go right, there will be a time to discuss the past. You will know when that time comes. And when it does...again....cool, calm, and collected. If you really want a perfect way to segway into it, try to find a place that has dancing.
You can tell her "
You know, in 8th grade, you asked me to dance, and I was terrified, so I declined. I have never forgot that, and always felt like I missed an opportunity. Would you like that dance now?"
If you can pull that one off, I can guarantee you will melt her heart.
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BlackMonarch
our other friend said, humorously, "Why, because they're both black?" which she denied, laughing.
I later learned from her 5-9year old sister, before she moved away in october of grade 8 (before the other girl showed up I think), that she wanted to date me, but her parents wouldn't allow it (I can think of no other reason but racial issues, since me and her got along so well, and they had no issue with her dating white boys).
Wow. What is it with certain black folks making such a big deal about race? Jim crow laws died 50 years ago. Some people need to cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it already.
Everyone says that it seems, tho I have lost a lot of weight since last year... It'll take a year to get rid of the rest of my fat
In that case, it sounds like you're on the right track. Keep up the good work!
edit: okay since I've sent the friend-request, she still hasn't responded. Should I say hi, or something, or just wait for a response since she may not accept it?
Yeah. Hanging around a college campus is creepy, but sitting on her Facebook page, refreshing it every 30 seconds, waiting for her to accept your friend request, isn't creepy at all...
It would help if you explained a little bit about yourself and your situation before asking her out: "I had a crush on you for the longest time, I never had the courage to ask you out because I was insecure about my appearance, and I sorely regret not dancing with you in 8th grade. Today, I'm rectifying that mistake."
^ I cannot express enough how much you should
NOT
do that. After you guys are a bit more comfortable with each other, then yea tell her how you feel. But for now just try and keep it casual, ask her for coffee or something, and then after you guys are at least headed in the direction of dating, then tell her some of the stuff you told us, maybe even not till after you guys are dating.
For now just work on getting to know her again, and introducing her to yourself. Its been a long time since you guys have been friends, you should catch up first.
Well yeah, obviously, you shouldn't say it IMMEDIATELY. But eventually, once you're ready to ask her out, that's the way to open it up.
If you really want a perfect way to segway
It's spelled "segue"
The Segway was a transportation device.
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BlackMonarch
It could work if music is playing. Otherwise, it's just dumb.
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588688
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BlackMonarch
If you opt for coffee, I recommend the Salted Caramel Mocha from Starbucks. It tastes AWESOME.
My friend was part white part ukranian,
Ukrainians ARE white...
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