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Post by
KittyKat77
(You guys do realise that the "child" is probably not entirely blameless in this situation coming about, right?)
While the child was engaging in inappropriate behavior, the adult bears the blame. She was a teacher, her JOB was to deal with young people. To teach them and nurture them, not prey on them. It's claimed she didn't know the victim's age. The article states the parents told her not to contact their son further, so I'd imagine the issue of him being a minor came up at some point there.
While he might have been rebelling against his parents belated efforts to protect him from this predatory contact, the 42 year old school teacher and parent who allegedly deceived him and preyed on his youth and immaturity deserves the full penalty of the law if found guilty.
The child needs counseling, and lots of help to overcome this experience, and the undoubtedly twisted ideas of love that have been planted in his impressionable mind.
Edited to add:
To once again reverse the genders in this scenario, if the victim were a 16 year old girl, would you be placing the blame on her? She shouldn't have allowed contact from her abuser? She shouldn't have _____ (insert XYZ behavior that negates her abuser from being to blame)?
Sorry, but I don't see how blaming the victim is productive on any level.
Post by
Patty
The tone in which that is written is pretty ridiculous.
Agreed.
One word - Coughar.
Post by
chase123
I need to see a picture of her before I judge that
Here is a pic of her at a gas station, before she met with the 16 year old boy.
Here is one from her facebook before it was taken down.
Post by
Anarchy
The child needs counseling, and lots of help to overcome this experience, and the undoubtedly twisted ideas of love that have been planted in his impressionable mind.
Utter bull, when I was 16 I had pretty much the same thought processes as I did now, sure 16 is young but he probably doesn't have the mind of a young child.
Post by
KittyKat77
She'd been grooming him for over a year. You really don't think he needs counseling, that he will have no lasting effects from this... trainwreck she has put him through?
Alllllrighty then.
Post by
Katalliaan
Here is one from her facebook before it was taken down.
The picture was taken down or the whole Facebook profile?
Post by
91278
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Post by
chase123
Here is one from her facebook before it was taken down.
The picture was taken down or the whole Facebook profile?
The entire thing.
Post by
KittyKat77
Sorry, but I don't see how blaming the victim is productive on any level.
Calling him a "victim", the way you're using it, implies that he wasn't willing. Sure, a crime has been committed, ergo he is a victim in a legal sense -- but as to whether he is a victim in the sense that
he
feels he has had wrong done to him by this woman? That is more dubious. I'm merely trying to offer a bit of perspective.
So, if a minor who has been groomed for abuse for over a year, manipulated by a much older predatory adult, and taken advantage of, doesn't believe they have had wrong done to them then it shouldn't matter?
Whether or not he was willing at the time of the final incident, doesn't change the fact that predatory contact had been ongoing, and it is common for predatory adults to "groom" their victims and manipulate them to gain their trust and cooperation.
The fact that he believes his "soul mate" is a married woman his mom's age with 4 kids of her own is a pretty big red flag that he's not exactly thinking clearly.
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91278
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Post by
KittyKat77
I maintain this unhealthy emotional attachment and obsession that has been developed in him by this older woman's abuse goes beyond natural teenage naivete, and the sexual nature of the communication she maintained with him does make it likely he will recover better with some form of counseling.
No, not every naive teenager needs "therapy," though most benefit from some form of counsel, be it from a loving healthy parental relationship, a trusted school guidance counselor, a stable older sibling, a religious mentor. Not every teenager has a sexual predator who is willing to cross international boundaries chasing them down either.
He's going to need help from somewhere to grow past this, obviously his parents are already struggling with him, since they've been trying to work through the situation since the situation was discovered last year. So, it makes sense some family counseling or outside help may be beneficial to the situation.
Post by
dumac
"there is a person behind that screen"
This ain't really shocking, people will ofc use wow as a medium. Most parents really should give the kid some kind of protection(mental) before they let them play. Explain !@#$ and be upfront honest, I rather have a parent snooking a bit if the kid is too young than this.
Gotta be wondering that mental state the kid is in, if he is so easily influenced.
Allthough i was more or less born with a 6000 year old man cynism about how the world works:)
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488155
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Post by
Adamsm
So how is this any different then those dirty old men who go out and bag an 18 year old trophy wife? Oh wait, it's not, but there's a stigma about older women. Seriously, they both made mistakes, but oh well; she probably wasn't happy in her marriage, and he had found his first 'love', and the first is always like this; whether it's infatuation or love, to those with no experience, it's the same thing.
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488155
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Post by
chase123
lucky bastard? damn chase123 really needs to get laid
Sarcasm my friend.
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115812
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Post by
KittyKat77
Ha. As for the piece, lured away....lured away....LURED AWAY. What did she toss a fishing hook into his room and reel him in? She didn't "lure" him away, he went to her of his own free will.
Lure - noun
1. anything that attracts, entices, or allures.
2. the power of attracting or enticing.
–verb (used with object)
1. to attract, entice, or tempt; allure.
2. to draw or recall, as by a lure or decoy.
How is what she did NOT "luring" him?
You saying HE lured her to cross international borders and destroy her life, family, and career?
I suppose anything's possible.
Post by
Adamsm
She lured him out of the house after the parents said no, but she came up across the border on her own.
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