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Weekly Debate #7: Parenting
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ASHelmy
Yes, but should definitely be the very last option.
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TheMediator
There are degrees to it. Hitting your child can sometimes be necessary, but beating your child crosses the mind in my opinion, you're going from disciplining the child to letting your anger out on them.
When I was in school, I remember being friends with this one indian kid whose parents were very strict, and his father would tie him to a post and whip him if he brought home a grade that angered him. That's crossing the line in my opinion.
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buzz3070
like he said in some cultures it is normal for parents to beat there kids if they do something that displeases the parents. but yeah hitting kids should be ok to get a point acorss so they know not to do it next time. i said hitting not beating.
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MyTie
Discipline is such a hard thing to teach a human being appropriately. I think that sometimes it may be necessary to utilize corporal punishment to communicate consequences to someone. However, if you have to use that, it more than likely is a refection of your poor parenting. You shouldn't have to spank your child, unless for some reason they are misbehaving to an extreme. A parent should be able to 'fix' the behavior through less invasive means well before spanking becomes necessary.
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ASHelmy
There are degrees to it. Hitting your child can sometimes be necessary, but beating your child crosses the mind in my opinion, you're going from disciplining the child to letting your anger out on them.
When I was in school, I remember being friends with this one indian kid whose parents were very strict, and his father would tie him to a post and whip him if he brought home a grade that angered him. That's crossing the line in my opinion.
Way over the line. I think it should just be to cause an amount of pain, without any visible or permanent damage, and with no anger whatsoever.
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ASHelmy
Discipline is such a hard thing to teach a human being appropriately. I think that sometimes it may be necessary to utilize corporal punishment to communicate consequences to someone. However, if you have to use that, it more than likely is a refection of your poor parenting. You shouldn't have to spank your child, unless for some reason they are misbehaving to an extreme. A parent should be able to 'fix' the behavior through less invasive means well before spanking becomes necessary.
Not all children are saints, not all parents are strong. If you tell your child a lot of times, then deprive him of some of his privileges etc. and it is still no use, then hitting is the only option.
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MyTie
However, if you have to use that, it more than likely is a refection of your poor parenting. You shouldn't have to spank your child, unless for some reason they are misbehaving to an extreme. A parent should be able to 'fix' the behavior through less invasive means well before spanking becomes necessary.
What he said.
That being said, no parent is perfect, and at times, a parent may have to rely on this form of discipline in order to properly instruct a child.
There should be guidelines in place though, to ensure it is done appropriately.
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MyTie
Discipline is such a hard thing to teach a human being appropriately. I think that sometimes it may be necessary to utilize corporal punishment to communicate consequences to someone. However, if you have to use that, it more than likely is a refection of your poor parenting. You shouldn't have to spank your child, unless for some reason they are misbehaving to an extreme. A parent should be able to 'fix' the behavior through less invasive means well before spanking becomes necessary.
I agree. However, I think that a backhand or a slap would be fitting for disrespectful back-talk.
I disagree. The way to get respect from a child is not through force.
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MyTie
If my mom ever smacked me, you can bet your ass I would never back talk her again. I do occasionally, but only because I am not perfect.
To be honest, I would prefer physical abuse over yelling and emotional trauma.
I would say there are many other options besides the two you have mentioned here. I have never slapped my daughter, and I have never heard her disrespect either of her parents.
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MyTie
Saying "No" to a child repeatedly doesn't always work.
I agree. In fact it is counter productive. If you say 'No' to a child, and they don't listen to it, then saying 'No' again will simply tell them that your first 'no' was meaningless, and so the second one will be as well. If 'no' doesn't work the first time, then don't use it again for the same issue. In order to learn consequences, you must consistently show that disobedience has them.
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