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Post by
Rankkor
What do you think is the amount of time you need to REALLY get to know someone before popping the question? How long is too long- what point should you realize that the other person doesn't ever want to marry you?
Marriage isn't something that should be done lightly. You must REALLY get to know that other someone before you make a commitment to stay together "Till death do us part".
I'd say at least a year. And of course, live together for at least a few months to see if you can stand each other :P because ohhhhh boy the difference between dating someone, and living with someone are HUUUUUUUUUUGE.
To put my wife as an example, she snores :S like a lioness. First few months together, I had problems sleeping due to that (Gotten used to it by now xD its more like a lullaby now, to the point that when I don't hear it, now I don't sleep :S). On my side of the equation, I'm more or less............ a mess =/ and my wife is a neat-freak that absolutely hates seeing a single sock on the ground. So we had a lot of friction during our first month together.
This was (at least to me) the trial-by-fire to see if we would make it as a couple, living together, learning to accept, and understand the flaws of the other, and see if we still have chemistry after seeing the unkept side of the other. Seeing your partner with messy hair, and without make-up, or waking up to see them drooling on the pillow xD.
I know I dated Reina for a year and a half before I popped the question, and even then, we lived together for 4 months before it became truly "official".
So yes, you must be absolutely sure, beyond shadow of doubt before dropping the question. I guess its ok to discuss marriage even on day 1, but to officially make plans............. give it time to see if you 2 have chemistry, because a lot of couples end up with their lives ruined for choosing the wrong partner to marry.
TY :)
PS: I'm going to have a bridal suite next to a shark tank.
I think that's pretty cool.
Absolutely cool. :P
BTW when is the big day?
Post by
ElhonnaDS
Not for some time- end of next year.
Post by
Squishalot
TY :)
PS: I'm going to have a bridal suite next to a shark tank. I think that's pretty cool.
Oh bah *facepalm* maybe I did read about it before.... Yes, agreed!
I would say at least half of year and some part of it you should live together. While dating is fun, it is the daily life that should tell you if you should marry or not....
If you don't have a 'daily life' while you're dating, even if you're not living together, I don't think you can know each other well enough to seriously consider marrying. My girlfriend doesn't live with me, but that doesn't stop us from knowing where we clash and where we mesh just from how often she comes over.
Post by
gnomerdon
How long do you think you should date someone before discussing marriage?
when it feels right.
i know a couple who married someone in just 5 hours, and they've been happily married for 35 years with 8 children, all of the grownups working and having careers of their own.
as for me (everyone has their own pace), it would take about 3-4 months to think about marraige, 7-9 months to talk about marraige, and about 1 year to plan the wedding and prepare to adjust. then marraige.
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OverZealous
when it feels right.
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Post by
UnholyDeciever
I've been with my gf for almost 4 years and while we do have our ups and downs I wouldn't have a problem marrying her, I just feel to young to get married and I see so many of my friends get married then a year later get divorced. Being a military wife / gf is hard
especially
when your significant other is in a different country(skype can only do so much).
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ElhonnaDS
#58- How do you cope with stress?
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Adamsm
#58- How do you cope with stress?
If possible, stop what is making me stressful, find a quiet corner to sit in, and just relax for 10 minutes or so to kill the stress.
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Patty
I basically put on a mask and hide behind it and have panic attacks dealing with everything internally, most of the time.
Very
occasionally I snap. But not often. Or through escapism, like Milayu said.
Post by
Azazel
I just try to go on with my day as it goes away. I'm a pretty chill person, so it usually works.
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Post by
Lombax
Chillin', I pretty much don't get stressed at all anyway.
Post by
Rankkor
Via 3 ways.
A: Playing videogames.
B: Cooking (it relaxes me somehow)
C: Reading.
Edit:
Petting my cat till she's purring also works wonders :P
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