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168916
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Post by
Atik
I'm just curious:
What's the appeal of porn?
I guess lesbian porn for guys... but what is so intriguing about watching people have sex?
Post by
Azazel
It's human nature to have sex. The will to procreate is in our genes, and as such is attractive to any kind of person unless you have a mental disease.
As for appeal, it comes down to what turns you on.
Post by
Jubilee
Sneaking =/= doing something wrong.
sometimes it just feels 'right' to sneak. I don't smoke in front of my mum. I wouldn't care if she caught me and at 21 it isn't against the law, but somehow it just feels
right
to not do it in front of her.
Sure, it's probably no right to do it in front of her. That does not then automatically make it right to do it surreptitiously. If you just prudently smoke when she is not around and you don't really mind if she knows or not, and she hasn't actually ever stumbled upon you smoking, then that's not sneaking at all. I would never swear in front of another person, but I have sometimes sworn when I'm by myself. I'm not sneaking, I'm just prudently choosing not to swear in front of others because I think that is inconsiderate and wrong.
What you described is clearly not surreptitious, but rather just you being prudent and considerate. You don't sneak and hide porn behind your partner's back to be considerate (unless you've already talked to him or her and that person has said s/he doesn't want to see any of it when s/he is around), you do it because you don't want to get caught.
That
is what is wrong.
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168916
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Post by
ElhonnaDS
I'm just curious:
What's the appeal of porn?
I guess lesbian porn for guys... but what is so intriguing about watching people have sex?
What's so intriguing about watching people play sports?
I don't know if that's a true comparison- very few people I know sit and watch a football game and then go "Damn, I need to play some football. I wish I had a football team here right now. Maybe I'll go out in the yard and just toss the ball around by myself and imagine I was playing football."
I think a closer comparison is watching a cooking show, which makes you hungry, and then you go eat a piece of cake to satisfy that hunger.
In all seriousness, the human brain works in such a way that sensory information about sights, smells and sounds that one associates with certain acts will cause the body to physically prime itself for said acts reflexively. For instance, a mother who is producing milk will have a physical reaction (trying not to get too explicit) when she hears a baby crying that makes it easier to nurse. When we see or smell food, we'll often start salivating in preparation for eating. When one person in a room starts yawning, it sets off a chain reaction. Things like that. Seeing people engaged in sexual actions sets of physical reactions in your own body that are preparation for participation in said actions, even if you're not actually going to.
Post by
Atik
It's human nature to have sex. The will to procreate is in our genes, and as such is attractive to any kind of person unless you have a mental disease.
As for appeal, it comes down to what turns you on.
I understand that procreation is appealing for that reason.
But watching procreation... just seems different.
Post by
MrSCH
We aren't watching the wonders of the body reproducing.
We're watching two people getting down and dirty and doing things that we often wouldn't dream of asking our partner, thus satiating our own needs.
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168916
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Post by
ElhonnaDS
Ah- my mistake.
Post by
xaratherus
I don't know if that's a true comparison- very few people I know sit and watch a football game and then go "Damn, I need to play some football. I wish I had a football team here right now. Maybe I'll go out in the yard and just toss the ball around by myself and imagine I was playing football."
I just spent about 3 minutes wiping soda off my monitor. For some reason that statement just nailed my funny bone.
Post by
gnomerdon
FIrst, I thought you meant committing acts of porn is cheating. Yes
But if you watch it, I don't think it's cheating. It's only watching, not acting? :(
It's a sensitive subject. It's not cheating unless you're actually cheating with someone physically or cybering onlinely.....
edit: I just spent about 3 minutes wiping soda off my monitor. For some reason that statement just nailed my funny bone.
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Post by
MrSCH
Soda.
Right.
Post by
xaratherus
Soda.
Right.
:P You give me too much credit.
Post by
Patty
I understand that procreation is appealing for that reason.
But watching procreation... just seems different.
I know people from school who have used techniques from porn on their partners, so I suppose it helps other people learn sex skills. It's sort of second hand experience, especially when it's awkward to ask people who are more experienced (I dunno, like your parents?) about how to pleasure people, seeing as you're listening to what turns on their partner (such as your mum or dad). After all, the odds are that you're going to be pretty crap during your first time.
Secondly, I suppose if your partner doesn't want to carry out certain acts, it acts as a wish fulfilment. I don't know. I'm posting potential theories, because I don't think that most people, when watching porn, are analysing
why
exactly they get turned on by watching other people, they're probably more pre-occupied by the dyed blonde with fake @#$% and no acting skills. Maybe it's like an audience substitute type of thing? /shrug
Oh, theory #3! It might be "hotter than reality by far", in the words of Felicia Day.
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91278
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Post by
ElhonnaDS
I don't know that learning moves from porn is such a great idea- lol. I'm sure that there are a lot of things that look great on camera that in reality are at best ho-hum and at worst a good way to sprain something. I have definitely had a couple of "Why would you do that?" moments in my life where I suspect that the idea came from some video somewhere.
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91278
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Post by
Patty
I don't know that learning moves from porn is such a great idea- lol. I'm sure that there are a lot of things that look great on camera that in reality are at best ho-hum and at worst a good way to sprain something. I have definitely had a couple of "Why would you do that?" moments in my life where I suspect that the idea came from some video somewhere.
Lol, true. But I suppose some of them would be more useful than others, but more presumably from 'amateur' porn than professional porn, which is probably more theatric. I can't believe we're having this conversation. :P
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