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My Girlfriend Doesnt Play Warcraft!?!?
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If your going to have a relationship with someone it has to be based on mutual respect and love. If you can't manage that things are going to come apart rather quickly. Sit her down and talk over it, wow is a hobby for you, i have no doubt that she has her own hobbies which she engages in, she needs to respect that you enjoy playing this game however you need to remember that putting wow before your relationship is going to end it very fast and that she may not actually want to play computer games, come to some agreement where she is happy with you play for some length of time per week/day rather than let it rumble along.
I agree with this. She must have hobbies too, as shoggy said, so you could use that as an example.
But mostly, you need to show her that you're not her ex. Don't do the things that he did (neglect her) - show her that you can take a break from the game too. (She wants to know that you're not "addicted" I'm sure) Have reasonable gaming hours - if you need to be on for longer periods (raiding, etc.) explain to her why it requires more time on the computer than usual. Perhaps volunteer to spend the night after with her (dinner and a movie? Painless, right?)
It's all about moderation - I, too, appreciate being able to "get away from it all" in the game. But moderation. Make sure that WoW stays your hobby. Not your life.
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I honestly am started to despise her because she doesnt respect the fact that I love this game. I dont know if I can marry some1 who wont play the game. I need her to see what its all about and enjoy the amazing world of Azeroth, as I do. If not, at least to care that I love he game and give me my space to enjoy it, without looks or attitude. What should I do?
So basically what you're saying is you would pick WoW over your wife. No wonder she gets so &*!@ed off when you play.
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I honestly am started to despise her because she doesnt respect the fact that I love this game. I dont know if I can marry some1 who wont play the game. I need her to see what its all about and enjoy the amazing world of Azeroth, as I do. If not, at least to care that I love he game and give me my space to enjoy it, without looks or attitude. What should I do?
So basically what you're saying is you would pick WoW over your wife. No wonder she gets so &*!@ed off when you play.
Troll much? The main point of his statement is that his fiance doesn't respect a hobby that he loves. It'd be no different if she didn't want him to camp or go fishing, it's the principle of the matter.
My first comment only slightly a joke, but in all seriousness
1) Your life shouldn't revolve around any hobby whether it be WoW or something like football
2) At the same time you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around her, if she can't accept what you enjoy to do, your relationship probably isn't going to work out. Don't get me wrong, I've heard of people getting divorces over WoW
addiction
and she does have a reason to be wary of it, but she owes you the chance to prove yourself.
look, he said himself that he probably wouldn't marry someone who doesn't play the game. he's chosing a video game over a family. that isn't addiction?
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im a girl who doesnt really care for video games - so thought my perspective may help :)
I completely understand where she's coming from - having a bf who just plays computer games all the time and would rather play them than talk to you is something a lot of girls have to put up with.
Having said that, I personally found it helped a lot to try and find out what all the fuss was about and why my bf was so addicted to these things that aren't me! I figured that I was never going to win the fight of girl vs computer game. Erm now I'm addicted too but that's beside the point...
...which I guess is: if you can't beat them, join them.
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I wouldn't worry so much about it. Do what makes you happy. $50 says she'll join you soon as she was already thinking WoW when she decided to be the typical girlfriend character (NE).
There is not one relationship in the world that is/was perfect. In every relationship there has got to be one thing that the other doesn't like, either your learn to live with it or you leave it. You can't change someone and they can't change you. They have to change because they want to and soon somethings may change.
Probably not what you wanted to hear but seriously the bottom line is do what makes YOU happy. If your such a good looking guys as you said you were there is no doubt in my mind you will find another one that enjoys the game not saying I want this in your case but you get my drift.
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This seems crazy. The OP said "I am honestly starting to dispise her because she doesnt respect the fact i love this game". That doesnt sound like the kind of thing I would expect to hear from someone who wants to marry this girl. I didnt like the idea of the game when i met my boyfriend, and he encouraged me to get involved in it and give it a go. He still had his free trial ticket from his account and so he gave me that, said if i dont like it, atleast i tried, which i thought was fair enough. Sure enough, I really enjoyed playing, got hooked on it very quickly , and now we play together. He had a lvl 65ish at the time but agreed to start up a new character to level with me. That way he taught me things about the game which i may well have given up on trying to figure out myself and we flew through the levels getting better together. Now we have a couple of alts we play if the other one doesnt fancy playing, or arent about, and then characters we play together exclusively. I personally love this way of doing it.
The point is though, if for some reason i want to do something else, or he does, we can both say 'dont fancy it tonight, i would rather do blahblahblah'. The respect works both ways by that he will take the time away from the game if i request it, but i think this is partly because I allow him to enjoy it a majority of the time, and then when i think we need 'us time' then he's more that happy to do it.
I think perhaps she may need to accept that you have an interest, and i do think that sometimes making an issue out of it exaccerbates the situation as it becomes an issue of 'she wont respect my hobbies etc', which i think is taking it a little bit too far.
I think from the OP, she probably feels threatened that the same situation will arise as it did with her ex. You cant blame her for feeling this if it is something which hurt her before. Finding a happy medium with regards to time and reassuring her that you are not going to neglect her should improve the situation.
If you truly consider the game to be of more importance than spending time with her, you obviously arent meant to be, as i know for a fact if i asked my boyfriend to stop playing as i felt it was ruining our relationship, he would stop in a heartbeat.
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